Θέμο αυτά τα "άντρες-εναντίον-γυναικών-εναντίον-ανδρών", όπως και τα "Oppression Olympics" είναι ...κάπως.Ε-ξυ-πα-κού-ε-ται πως οι άνδρες καταπιέζονται από την Πατριαρχία και τους κυριαρχικούς ρόλους!Το όχι "ηλίθιο" (όπως χαρακτήρισες) κομμάτι των φεμινιστ(ρι)ών ασχολείται (και) μ' αυτές τις καταπιέσεις, άλλωστε οι καταπιέσεις είναι αλυσίδα ..πέρνουν μπάλα κι άλλ@ς κι άλλ@ς κι άλλ@ς, όμως δεν ξέρω κατά πόσο ευθύνεται για το ότι αρκετοί άνθρωποι (ανεξαρτήτως φύλου) καταπίνουν την παραμυθα αμάσητη, με απότέλεσμα είτε να αδιαφορούν πλήρως, είτε να κονταροχτυπιώνται μεταξύτονε σαν πεντάχρονα (δεν εννοώ εσάς, έχω δει και χειρότερα :-P), σχετικά με το σε ποι@ν έχει δώσει το "οικοδόμημα πατριαρχία-γονιός" την μακρύτερη μπουγάτσα σοκολάτα!Λες:"Δηλαδη, αν σκοτωναν τη γυναικα και στελναν τον αντρα στη μανα του, θα το εβρισκες "φεμινιστικο";"Όχι βέβαια, διότι σκοπός του μη "ηλίθιου" φεμινισμού δεν είναι να πάρει η γυναίκα τη θέση του άνδρα στην πατριαρχία, δεν είναι ο σκοπός να αντιμετωπίζονται διαφορετικά τα φύλα, δεν είναι ο σκοπός να αναπαραχθούν όλα τα κακώς κείμενα σ' έναν "αντεστραμένο" κόσμο. Και επίσης θεμιτό θα ήταν να μην σκοτώνονται οι άνθρωποι για μαλακίες, ούτως ή άλλως. Όμως η εξήγηση της αιτίας πίσω από ένα κατά τ' αλλλα πασιφανές αποτέλεσμα, όπως έκανε η Ίρις, έχει παντοτε νόημα. Το θέμα είναι να κατανοηθούν οι καταπιέσεις.Είναι σαν να αναρωτιέσαι αν θα το βρίσκαμε "φεμινιστικό" να βιάζουν γυναίκες άνδρες (...με μπουκάλια κατά προτίμηση)."Το να πιστευεις οτι η αιχμαλωσια ειναι χειροτερη απο το θανατο ειναι αυταπατη."Ειλικρινώς δεν ξέρω και δεν θέλω να μάθω, δεν είναι μόνο ο θάνατός σου ως μαχόμενος, αλλά και το ότι πιθανότατα έχεις προκαλέσει των θάνατο άλλων -ίσως εντελώς αναγκαστικά- και είναι πολύ σκατά αυτό ή κι αν έχεις επιζήσει (Βοηθάει η "ηρωποίηση" των πραξεών σου από το "οικοδόμημα"; Ναι. Είναι αρκετό; Για κάποιους ναι, προφανώς όχι για αυτούς που τελικώς χάνουν την ψυχική τους υγεία. Τις δικαιολογέί (τις πράξεις); Αυτό είναι μία άλλη συζήτηση). Πάντως αν ο θάνατος είναι απόλυτος, μην ουδετεροκοποιείς την "αιχμαλωσία" τόσο πολύ, γιατί μόνο ουδέτερη δεν είναι, ο "ζωντανός θάνατος" επίσης δεν είναι έκφραση τυχαία.Ας εξετάσουμε, όμως, κάτι διαφορετικό: αν δεν απατώμαι τα ποσοστά των γυναικών που έχουν κάνει απόπειρα αυτοκτονίας είναι πολύ περισσότερα από αυτά των ανδρών, αλλά τα ποσοστά των ανρών που έχουν κάνει "επιτυχημενες" αυτοκτονίες είναι πολύ περισσότερα. Και έχει πολύ ενδιαφέρον το γιατί. και, ναι, έχει να κάνει με κοινωνικούς ρόλους.Μην ρωτήσεις κι εδώ αν θα το βρίσκαμε πιο "φεμινιστικο" να πεθαίνουν περισσότερες γυναίκες από απόπειρες αυτοκτονιών, διότι το οικοδόμημα της πατριαρχίας έχει και πολύ να κάνει με τις αυτοκτονίες των ανδρών.Και είναι πολύ γαμώ το κεράτό μου γαμώ αυτό και πρέπει να αλλάξει!...Και μερικές "αυταπάτες":A Few Facts about Sexual and Gender-Based Violence:1. World-wide, an estimated 40 to 70 per cent of homicides of women are committed by intimate partners, often in the context of an abusive relationship.2. Around the world, at least one in every three women has been beaten, coerced into sex, or otherwise abused in her lifetime.3. Trafficking of humans world-wide grew almost 50 percent from 1995 to 2000 and the International Organisation for Migration (IOM) estimates that as many as 2 million women are trafficked across borders annually.4. More than 90 million African women and girls are victims of female genital mutilation.5. At least 60 million girls who would otherwise be expected to be alive are missing from various populations, mostly in Asia, as a result of sex-selective abortions, infanticide or neglect.6. In recent years, mass rape in war has been documented in Bosnia, Cambodia, Liberia, Peru, Somalia and Uganda. A European Community fact-finding team estimates that more than 20,000 Muslim women were raped during the war in Bosnia.7. Ninety-four percent of displaced households surveyed in Sierra Leone have reported incidents of sexual assault, including rape, torture and sexual slavery. At least 250,000, perhaps as many as 500,000, women were raped during the 1994 genocide in Rwanda.http://www.unhcr.org/3f696bcc4.html"We know that there is a strong relationship between violence against women and HIV. We need to help young people develop the skills for mutual consent in sex and marriage and put an end to violence and sexual coercion. This is key to preventing HIV and to achieving gender equality in all aspects of life."WHO report on the health of women: AIDS leading cause of death globally in women of reproductive agehttp://www.unaids.org/en/Resources/PressCentre/Featurestories/2009/November/20091109Women/"Every 90 seconds, one woman dies during pregnancy or childbirth. Most of these deaths are preventable, but due to gender-based discrimination many women are not given the proper education or care they need""Maternal deaths and disabilities are leading contributors in women's disease burden with an estimated 275,000 women killed each year in childbirth and pregnancy worldwide. In 2011, there were approximately 273,500 maternal deaths (uncertainty range, 256,300 to 291,700). Forty-five percent of postpartum deaths occur within 24 hours. Over 90% of maternal deaths occur in developing countries".http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternal_deathChild Undernutrition in India: A Gender Issuehttp://www.unicef.org/india/reallives_5901.htm"Feminization of poverty describes a phenomenon in which women represent disproportionate percentages of the world's poor.[ UNIFEM describes it as "the burden of poverty borne by women, especially in developing countries". This concept is not only a consequence of lack of income, but is also the result of the deprivation of capabilities and gender biases present in both societies and governments. (...) two-thirds of the poor that were over age 16 were women."http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feminization_of_povertySex differences in education"Worldwide, men are more likely to be literate, with 100 men considered literate for every 88 women. In some countries the difference is even greater; for example, in Bangladesh only 62 women are literate for every 100 men."http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_differences_in_education#mediaviewer/File:Map3.7Education_Discrepancy_compressed.jpg"Women make up around 50 percent of the global population, but fill less than 20 percent of all parliamentary seats"http://www.ipu.org/wmn-e/world.htmA timeline of women's right to vote - interactivehttp://www.theguardian.com/global-development/interactive/2011/jul/06/un-women-vote-timeline-interactive"International negotiations, whether over trade agreements, diplomacy or war are overwhelmingly carried out by men who are, with few exceptions, the governmental leaders, diplomats and high-ranking international civil servants. This is largely due to the under-representation of women in national and often local structures of power and decision-making. When women do reach decision making positions of, they are more likely to deal with ’soft’ issues of social policy, education, culture and environment than with defence. In 1988, of the five nuclear nations, there were approximately 800 key decision-making positions. Of these, five were occupied by women (Ferris, 1992)."________________________________________Soldiers are not the only casualties of war."Stereotypical interpretations shape and are shaped by social, political, economic, cultural and religious contexts. Armed conflict encourages expectations that men will fight and women will support them on the ‘home front’. The popular perception is that men are soldiers or aggressors and women are wives, mothers, nurses, social workers and sex-workers. It is true that it is primarily men who are conscripted and killed in battle, but women make up the majority of civilian casualties *** (εδώ βάζω ένα ερωτηματικό, που αφορά, όντως, τις μεθοδολογίες υπολογισμού των consequences on the long run) and suffer in their role as caregivers, due to a breakdown of social structures (Byrne 1996)"."Impacts of armed conflict such as forced displacement and GBV (gender based violence) are notunderstood as human rights violations, but rather as cultural or private issues that are best left alone."***"The research we have explored uses different datasets and investigates different conflicts and time periods, so it is difficult to say whether more men or women die overall from conflict. One general conclusion can however be drawn: men are more likely to die during conflicts, whereas women die more often of indirect causes after the conflict is over. Data on violent deaths (mostly survey data) confirm that men are more often victims of violence during wartime, whereas several studies that also take into consideration the post conflict period report a high number of female deaths after the conflict is officially over".http://file.prio.no/Publication_files/Prio/Armed%20Conflict%20Deaths%20Disaggregated%20by%20Gender.pdf